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Every comedian, no matter their level, will face criticism. Sometimes it's helpful, sometimes it stings, and sometimes it's just plain unfair. But one thing is certain: how you respond to feedback says more about you than the feedback itself.
Here's how to take criticism like a pro and use it to level up your comedy career.
1. Know the Source
Not all criticism is created equal. Before you react, ask:
- - Is this coming from a fellow comic, a booker, or a random audience member?
- - Are they offering a sincere perspective or just trying to tear you down?
Constructive feedback from someone with experience can be a goldmine. Random heckles or mean-spirited remarks? Not worth your energy.
đź’ˇ Pro Tip: If someone gives you a note that stings but sounds true, write it down. Revisit it later when you're less emotional.
2. Detach Your Ego
Your joke didn't land? That doesn't mean you aren't funny. It means that joke, in that room, on that night, didn't work. Comedy is trial and error.
It's natural to feel protective of your material, but growth comes when you detach your ego from your work. You're not bombing—you're learning.
3. Use Feedback to Refine, Not Redefine
When you get feedback, run it through your internal filter:
- - Does it align with your comedic voice?
- - Can you adjust delivery or structure without compromising your style?
- You don't have to follow every note. But thoughtful feedback can reveal blind spots or unlock new angles.
4. How to Receive Feedback from Fellow Comics at Open Mics
Open mics are where comics test material and trade ideas. If you ask for feedback, remember:
Don't get defensive. Just say thank you.
Most comics are trying to help you. If someone takes time to give you honest feedback, be gracious—even if you don't agree with it.
Don’t Ask If You’re Not Going to Listen
If you ask for feedback week after week but never apply any of it, people will notice—and eventually, they’ll stop offering it. It’s frustrating to spend time giving thoughtful advice only to see the same comic ignore it and repeat the same mistakes.
💡 Pro Tip: Respect people’s time. If you’re not ready to consider feedback seriously, it’s better not to ask. No one expects you to take every suggestion—but don’t waste the energy of others if you have no intention of growing from it.
Many hosts, in fact, discourage comics from asking for feedback during shows. It can create awkward moments, especially if the comic isn't actually interested in hearing anything critical. Ask only when you're genuinely open to improving—and know that "thank you" goes a long way.
Don't Be That Comic
Nobody forgets the comic who asks for feedback and then snaps at the person who gave it:
💡Pro Tip: Remember JADE (Justify, Argue, Defend, and Explain). If you’re implementing JADE into your response, you’re probably being “That” Comic.
It’s uncomfortable and disrespectful. The room will cringe. That kind of response burns bridges fast.
You Never Know Who You're Talking To
The comic you're brushing off might be a veteran, a booker, or someone connected to bigger opportunities. Comedy is a small world. Don't let ego sabotage your relationships.
Feedback Is a Gift, Not a Debate
Even if you disagree, you don't have to justify your choices. Just take what you like, leave the rest, and move on. If you're not ready to hear critique, don't ask for it.
đź’ˇ Pro Tip: If you're asking for feedback, don't act like a know-it-all. Nobody likes a know-it-all.
Learn more about The Importance Of Open Mics In A Comedian's Journey to Success
5. Handling Criticism from Instructors in Classes
Criticism from an instructor is a unique kind of feedback. They're likely someone who has seen it all and knows what works and what doesn't. While it can sting to hear that your performance needs more work, trust that they have your best interests at heart.
Stay Open, Even When It’s Tough
When an instructor critiques your work, don’t take it personally. They’re trying to help you improve.
💡 Pro Tip: Ask for specific examples. If they say, “Your timing is off,” ask how you can adjust. That’s an invitation to learn, not a dig at your ability.
Use It to Elevate Your Performance
Instructors give feedback with the expectation that you’ll act on it. So, take their advice seriously, especially when it comes to things like pacing, tone, and delivery. Even if it doesn’t always feel comfortable, it’s there to push you to the next level.
6. Handling Criticism from Bookers
Bookers are the gatekeepers in the comedy world. Their feedback isn’t just about your performance—it’s about whether you fit what they need for their audience. It’s business. It’s nothing personal.
Understand the Business Side
When a booker gives you criticism, especially if it’s about material that doesn’t work for their audience, it’s not a reflection of your comedic value. They may just not have the right stage for you, or your style doesn’t match the vibe they’re going for at the time.
💡 Pro Tip: If a booker offers critique, ask for guidance. Do they have tips for adjusting your act or suggestions for the types of venues they’d consider you for in the future?
Stay Professional
When you receive feedback from a booker, don’t get defensive or challenge them. Stay calm, take their input with grace, and make sure you follow up with them in the future with new material or different ideas based on their suggestions.
7. Handling Criticism from Family and Friends
This type of criticism can be tricky. Family and friends usually mean well, but their feedback isn’t always informed by the same standards as your comedy peers.
Understand the Intent
Family and friends want you to succeed. If they criticize your material, they may just not understand your humor or how it plays onstage. It’s important to recognize that their feedback comes from a place of love, but may not be the best gauge of your material's effectiveness in front of an audience.
💡 Pro Tip: Use family and friends' feedback as a sounding board, but don’t let their opinions derail your confidence. If they don’t understand a joke, it’s likely not because it’s bad—it’s because they don’t get your comedic voice.
A Word of Caution
Family and friends are often too kind when giving feedback. They’ll tell you you're funnier than you really are because they want to be supportive, but their praise may be more about loving you than recognizing your skills. Keep in mind that stories like "Remember that one time we…" are not the same as a crafted joke for a paying audience. What works in casual conversation might not land on stage.
Be Selective with Who You Ask
Don’t feel obligated to ask family or friends for feedback if they’re not familiar with the comedy world. Sometimes, it’s better to save that space for more seasoned comics or instructors who have the experience to give you the insight you need.
8. Build a Growth Mindset
The best comedians constantly evolve. They record their sets, analyze what works, and ask for input. The difference between a decent comic and a great one often comes down to who’s open to feedback.
Your jokes will change. Your delivery will sharpen. But only if you're willing to listen, learn, and keep showing up.
Ready to build your growth mindset? Cameron Conaway shares an insightful article in the Harvard Business Review, The Right Way to Process Feedback.
Final Thought: Criticism Isn't the Enemy—Ego Is
Handling feedback well is a sign of professionalism and maturity. You'll gain respect, make better connections, and get better onstage faster.
So the next time someone gives you notes, remember: it's not personal. It's part of the process.
Say thank you. Learn what you can. Keep writing. Keep growing.
Dr. Denise Trudeau-Poskas shares more about How To Get Your Ego Out Of The Way For Better Workplace Relationships in her November 21, 2023 Forbes article.
More articles on the art of receiving feedback:
Receiving and Giving Effective Feedback The University of Waterloo
Decoding Virtual Audience Responses: A Guide for Online Comedians Plauzzable
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